Welsh Institute of NLP

The meaning of the communication is the response it produces

This follows on from the previous presupposition. If our communications do not produce the responses we would like, we can either decide that the other person is to blame for not responding appropriately, or we can simply accept that our communication produced the result it did and decide what we would like to do now. The first approach leaves us powerless: we are in the hands of the other person.
The latter approach enables us to treat the response as information, and change our own behaviour accordingly. This places us in the powerful position of a flexible communicator willing to take responsibility for achieving the things we would like.

We use the word 'responsibility' in its literal sense; the ability to respond.